Friday, August 29, 2008
I have oh so much to say after a first week back in college after 10 years away! See you there!
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Friday, August 22, 2008
The next day we called him and made a plan to meet for lunch and then go back to my sister's house afterward to talk.
It was so strange! I swear my younger sister is a spitting image of him and it was disarming to see her facial expressions on his face! Also, mannerisms were flying around the room at the speed of light. It was bizarre. I don't think I ever realized, not even with my own children, how much gets passed on with DNA until now. With my own children I can tell myself it is all learned behavior, or that most of it is, but that just isn't the whole story. I wish I could paint a better picture of it, or I had a side by side film to show and tell.
We had lunch at a local seafood place and then went to my sister's house and started a talkathon that lasted for about 9 hours. It was like he had decades of stories he had been storing up to tell us and once the gates were open he was off to the races.
Surprisingly enough, to me anyway, I was quite at ease with him and with his wife and didn't really feel ill at ease at all once we got past the first few awkward moments. Also, I have to say thank goodness for my partner because having her there made for familiar surroundings and really helped with my nervousness.
He talked about growing up in the same neighborhood as my mother's family and hanging out at my mother's house all the time because her older brother was one of his best friends. If I left with the right impression, they were all friends since early childhood. They lived very near the beach, like blocks away, and spent a lot of time there playing, hanging out, and being kids.
I heard a lot of their not so good stories too, but don't feel right about sharing those. I will say that I believed him and think he was as honest and upfront. As honest and upfront as any of us can be when trying to tell the stories of our past.
His wife is a year older than me, which gave us all a giggle. They seem to be really close and she really seemed nice. I have no issue one way or the other with people's love relationships. I think it also helps that I am not one to hope a person is this way or that way. I try to base my judgments about people on their apparent character, or lack thereof, and go from there. I really had not preconceived ideas of how I wanted him to be. I did know what I didn't want and what type of person is usually not a good match for me and he seemed to be above all the things I think of as unbecoming in a person. That was a relief.
I know that this visit left me open to more visits. K seemed very keen on visiting us here in TN so they could see the big city of Nashville, lol. She says they would love to plan it for the Spring and fly down and stay longer than 3 days.
We left my sister's house on Sunday, after having brunch with everyone and saying our goodbyes. J, my partner, and I decided to take some back roads and side trips on our way home and went to Gatlinburg for a few hours. We walked around looking at the shops. Ate dinner, wonderful hot dogs of all things! Took some pictures and had a great, relaxing, time together. There is no one on the planet I enjoy spending time with more than J! We got home around 11pm.
I have been sewing almost non-stop since we got home and sewing always makes for good thinking time. lol That is why the seam ripper is my friend sometimes. I get so deep in thought I lose myself and forget what the heck I am doing.
I am pretty resolved to see where this new relationship will go and give it a chance to grow.
I am also resolved to keep my spaces on this planet in my control rather than allowing other people to control my actions and thoughts. This was a resolve that came over me as I was sewing, thinking, and singing loudly to some of my favorite playlists this week
"Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head." ~Ann Landers
Here is a nice family portrait from the trip. Not really, just a neat attraction at a fun house in Gatlinburg. I will try to get the rest of the pictures uploaded to my Flickr one of these days.
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
First up is Ella Dean. What a wonderful shop full of "vegan, fun, smoochalicious lip conditioners & rereshing body mists". She took the time to write to me and pointed out that all of her labels are her own original artwork! What a dynamo! Her listings are also so wonderful to read and so complete. Also, her shop offers items at every price point and interest. This is truly an original seller with an original idea.
Check out the Sexy Librarian Gift Set! What a real treat and a wonderful price for such a nice set!
I also enjoy the super sly Natasha, she has balm and isn't afraid to use it!
Next up is an offering so sweet that if you are not salivating after a peek I am doing something so very wrong.
Cute Ability offers "jewelry for the young and young at heart". Her shop is full of all kind of soft fuzzy muted colors, but the little food charms are what make it so wonderful to look at. Baking a cake never looked so yummy. I don't know about you, but when I bake cakes it takes hours and I make a huge mess. This baked cake is dreamy though.
Friday, August 8, 2008
I need a drink. Well, a drink and a big smack on top of my head.
Should I be worried that every time I actually start contemplating what all of this means I break out in worry lines and cold sweat?
I can do this, I can do this, I know I can do this. Also, for the very first time since I was 18 years old, I am now 38, I am going to selfishly choose what is best for me as long as it seems like everyone on the other end will survive that decision.
For now though, I am going to have a nice big margarita. So, have a drink on me.
While you are at it, check out Boopsidaisy, one of the most deliciously devious shops I have found on Etsy. Covered in candy coated dreams, one becomes immersed in a world of inebriated dolls and wickedly funny product descriptions. Take a look and take a shot. Have fun.
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
Saturday, August 2, 2008
The beautifully macabre pieces featuring the bones of small animals are a must see. Crafted with an obvious eye for detail and meticulous attention to visual appeal, these pieces are more like wearable collage than the usual bauble. I particularly like the The Dauphine Necklace. Charming, and seeming to come from a different time, the "Dauphine" causes you to do a double take as you realize something very different is going on with this necklace.
Be Warned: Purevile is not for the weak of heart or stomach, but it offers up some of the most unusual pieces of artwork, in the form of jewelry, I have ever seen. The pieces range from simple clean lines to more extravagant and mysterious. All of the items have a story, and the proprietor of the shop is kind enough to share the story with us. Purchasing pieces with history always adds a special touch. Purevile makes use of old ephemera, some merely spooky, and some disturbing to the psyche, as the backdrop to all of the pieces in the shop. Somehow managing a marriage of piece to history. Haunting Revelations is one of the tamer offerings in the shop, but still so eye catching and beautifully...haunting.